As little kids, we are always encouraged to dream. In fact, to DREAM BIG. Before we are old enough to think for ourselves, we are asked the famous childhood question “What do you want to be when you grow up?”
Most children answer this question based off of occupations they’ve seen glorified — teacher, firefighter, policeman, doctor or lawyer.
It is the cutest thing until that once young child realizes the commitment, time, and dedication it takes to master each profession.
The child quickly learns their dreams aren’t just a word away put several steps ahead of where he currently is.
What about the little girl who grew up planning her wedding before her own personal purpose and success? She vividly imagines the white, flowing dress with her 10 best friends in her wedding party.
She imagines the most handsome, perfect and charming man she will get to call her forever.
Dreams are beautiful. Dreams are brave. They keep us living beyond our current realities. But what if we considered the nightmares that come with the dreams.
Would it make the dream less desirable? No. Would it make the realities clear and help set proper expectations? Yes.
Let’s go back to the little child who dreams of being a doctor but has no idea it takes a minimum of 8 years of school and rigorous competition to land his residency.
Let’s consider telling him he will have to sacrifice his time, his personal desires, and fund this process with personal assets or student loans. Let’s mention the challenges so he will know before the white coat he will have to get down and dirty (do the work) to earn it.
Let’s go back to the little girl dreaming of her Prince Charming coming to save her from her singleness gloom. Let’s mention self-love, self-respect and honor to attract the man she’s dreaming of. Let’s mention her man will not be perfect as no human is. Let’s mention he will eventually disappoint her because Superman is a man first.
As adults, let’s pair nightmares with dreams. Let’s look at both sides of the coins and not just the flip side.
A higher salary in Corporate America will more than likely require more production out of you and more time away from your family.
A FREE deal advertised, one will pay for in some way whether it be time or money. *Queue timeshare presentations*.
A leadership role will only do so much for your pride and ego as you learn you will serve others more than you will yourself.
As I plan my next moves, I’m writing a nightmare by every dream. What about you?
2 replies on “Dreams and Nightmares”
Excellent insight. How we are fooled into believing there are perfect dreams. Perfect dreams include imperfection. Thanks for the thought provoker. Going forward, this is good for all, especially the little ones and those still pursuing the “perfect” life.
This right on point! Too often we look at the benefits without carefully considering the sacrifices our choices will require. It’s a lesson I’ve definitely learned the hard way. Thanks for putting it into words.